Few days back, I came across the news headline about the former President of US Bill Clinton’s affair with a 22 year old White House intern Monica Lewinsky. And it came to light after two decades where Lewinsky has gone from a political punchline to anti-bullying advocate. Though Clinton was a popular President even at the height of the scandal, during which he was impeached but not removed from the office and his
But Lewinsky, now 44, said that she was bullied and slut-shamed by the media for years after the affair was made public. In an essay for Vanity Fair’s March issue, Lewinsky said that the #Metoo Movement made her begin to grapple with the power dynamics at play in her relationship with Clinton.
“Now at 44, I am beginning to consider the implications of the power differential that were so vast between a President and a White House intern. I am beginning to entertain the notion that in such a circumstance, the idea of Consent might well be rendered moot.” she wrote. “But it’s also complicated and I know one thing for certain: part of what has allowed me to shift is knowing I am not alone anymore and for that I am grateful.”
Recently Monica Lewinsky walked out of an interview at Jerusalem after the host brought up the question regarding Bill Clinton’s apology. And what she did was the correct response.
Later she explained, “I left because it is more important than ever for women to stand up for themselves and not to allow others to control their narrative.”
Welcoming to our Bhartiya Sabhyata Sanskriti or Samaj, it’s time we stop worshipping the Superwoman. She became a Superwoman because she is married to a super archaic, super manipulative, super selfish idiot.
“Rohit Bhaiya’s wife is a Superwoman!”
“Don’t you remember her? She comes up randomly in all conversations. Your husband’s chachi’s mausi’s grandson Rohit Bhaiya’s wife – The Ideal Bahu! Everybody loves her!
“She gets up at 5 a.m. everyday and cooks breakfast. No not your definition of breakfast- bread and omelette, you lazy shortcut specialist! She makes Poha for bhaiya, Idli for her in-laws and also aloo paratha for kids. She packs the lunch boxes for everybody and also goes to office! What did you think? You are the only ‘career oriented woman’ in the family? She cooks dinner for everyone after coming from work. She then cleans the kitchen and goes to bed. Plus, Bhaiya loves her so much that he only likes Rotis cooked by Bhabi. Not only this, she is always smiling like Laughing Buddha!”
Sounds so familiar na? While every married woman may have been given the example of Rohit Bhaiya’s wife to highlight her inadequacy and miserable failure, nobody ever gives credit to Rohit Bhaiya for his wife’s achievements.
- Rohit Bhaiya’s role in her Superwoman status
He gets up in the morning (by himself). He then gets ready (again by himself) after being served hot breakfast. He works hard all day,(poor guy). He comes back home and watches TV while admiring his wife as she takes care of the kids and 3 adults. He spends the weekends catching up with friends for a drink (while of course in awe of his Superwoman wife who manages his home and shares his finances so beautifully).
I think it’s high time we should acknowledge that Rohit Bhaiya has an important role in creating a Superwoman.
Behind every Superwoman, there is an inconsiderate man!
- Best way to control a woman – put her on a pedestal
In our society, the most effective way to control a woman is to put her on a pedestal- “as an epitome of selflessness and sacrifice”. If Rohit Bhaiya’s wife’s daily routine makes you wonder if she is an unpaid full time maid, she is not! She is a glorified maid! Yes you read it right!
Instead of applauding her and putting pressure on her to flaunt and maintain her Superwoman Trophy, why can’t the likes of Rohit Bhaiya share some responsibilities to make her life easier? Or at least hire sufficient help so that she doesn’t have to do it all alone. Why should she slog like a Slave? But he doesn’t bother. It is her job after all. In addition to this, she gets perks of being married to him, such as being ‘allowed’ to work etc. What a lucky lady!
- The Indian Man looking for the Ideal Wife to get married
A long time back, one of my friend had an unfortunate experience of interacting with a man for an arranged marriage setup and that was their first meeting. He asked her if hypothetically, would she take a few years off from work after having a child. She said that “I do not know how being a mother would feel like, so I really can’t say.”
That was an honest answer but it did not gratify his curiosity and he insisted. She said, “Probably not, because I love my job and it would be difficult to stay at home.” He complained, how women (these days) don’t understand that raising a family is extremely rewarding. It’s not a loss, rather a gain that would benefit her for lifetime. Plus, a professionally qualified women like her can find a job even after gap. She said him strictly that the rewards of parenting do not discriminate between men and women. Has he ever considered flexible hours post fatherhood to take care of his kids? To which he replied that mother’s ‘obviously’ share a stronger bond with children. She was shocked and enquired him that beyond breastfeeding is there anything that they cannot do for their child?
And at that point, he was getting very uncomfortable with the conversation. He said that women now a days have become too forward (whatever that means). He again asked her the original question like an unstoppable moron (this time wording it differently).
” Career is so important to you that you do not feel the necessity to take care of your family?”
“What if you die?” She questioned.
“What if you die or we get divorced? Then I’ll have no job, no money. The love and affection will not suffice in feeding my kids. But being financially independent will.”
And she finally succeeded in shutting his mouth.
- It should be her choice, not forced on her right!
Just to clarify, she took the argument to extreme. I have a lot of respect for women who stay at home and take care of their kids. I too am a stay at home mum. Before becoming a mother, I too was a working lady and my husband has always supported me in this. But there are some Superman outside who think that only they can fly and women are meant to stay at home. But let me clarify you, we stay at home mums are the homemakers. And only we have the right to make that choice. It should not be something that is naturally expected from us or forced on us by virtue of our gender.
If the mother chooses to stay at home, let us not ask her, ‘ But what do you do all the day?” like an idiot and give her examples of Rohit Bhaiya types’ wives who bring in money also. Being a mother and a home maker is a full time job and we do not need any salary for it. If she works, then also let us not make her compete with Rohit Bhaiya’s wife whose cleaning skills could potentially leave all janitors out of work. People like Rohit Bhaiya are inconsiderate of his wife’s needs but very cleverly and conveniently take advantage of their Superwoman.
There is no pride in being Rohit Bhaiya. So why should there be any shame in not being his wife?
Behind every Superwoman lies an Inconsiderate and Selfish man!